My son is 7 months old and doesn't seem to have a comfort object. Is it important to have one?

He has a blanket and a stuffed bunny, but he doesn't mind sleeping without them.


I read everywhere that having a comfort object helps baby sleep better, especially in unfamiliar places.


Should I try to make him pick one?My son is 7 months old and doesn't seem to have a comfort object. Is it important to have one?
Well, it's very different for each baby, some have are comfort object and are completely dependent on knowing where it is and having it at all times. Some have one, but aren't completely dependent, usually used for sleeping during a storm or when they have a toothache.





Then, there are the ones like your baby who don't need one at all. That usually means that they are either going to find one later on, or just go through their baby years without one, which is good in some ways. You'll never have to worry about them dragging something around and losing it, or being dependent on something childish at a much older age.





My toddler little sister just got over her blankie, and for that I am grateful. I was tired of helping my mom find it and washing it everyday.





Congradulations on your baby! And good luck.My son is 7 months old and doesn't seem to have a comfort object. Is it important to have one?
If he doesn't have a comfort object, he doesn't need one- My daughter has no specific item that she uses for comfort, she will randomly ';need'; a baby doll or a book and once she went into bed holding a cracker that I couldn't get her to give up *shrugs* it is certainly easier to NOT have a lovey that they need, you don't have to worry about constantly finding it wherever you go.





The lovey situation is one where YOU will end up the keeper of this very important object and who needs all that stress on top of all of the other things you have to keep up with when you have a small child?





My daughter is very attached to me, just like I like it- 16 months is still a baby and she still needs her mama- I will let her spend the night with a grandma occasionally, and I do make sure to tell her what is going on and sometimes manipulate the situation so that I am not leaving just as she is getting tired- she's always okay-





When she was small, sometimes I would sleep with an animal or a recieving blanket under the pillow so that if she missed me while I was working she could have something soft that smelled like her mom, but I never really pushed it.
He probably has a comfort ';object'; which is either YOU or HIMSELF. Which is the way its supposed to be.





Babies aren't supposed to bond with things, they are supposed to bond with their parents, and extended family. Its just silly western selfishness that thinks its better to bond with a thing than mom, because then mom can ';get a break';.





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Any time you force the child to rely on their own resources prematurely, you must expect deleterious consequences. When the child's needs are met through person-to-person interaction with its mother, you establish the primacy of social contact, and the interdependence of human beings, rather than encouraging/forcing the child to meet its needs by itself.





This may be a crude analogy, but consider this: If you have two adults, married to each other, who have all the children they want and don't want to get pregnant, but still have strong sex drives, would you consider it better if they each went into a separate room and masturbated? This would certainly allow them to ';self comfort'; and would make them independent and autonomous, so that one wouldn't have to wait until the other was ready or ';in the mood.'; Would you really consider this an improvement?
Maybe just stick to one thing and always put it in there. My son has a blanket buddy. Its part blanket part puppy that he has slept with since the day he was born. I haven't ever tried to see if he can sleep without it b/c its just always there but maybe just stick to one and always put it in there with him. Eventually I am sure it will become a comfort object.
Probably because his comfort is you! My 6 month old doesn't have blankets or teddies to go to bed with as he is fine as long as i am there for him. It is fine for children to have these security items but once they get older it is harder to break them so if your son is fine without let him be, if he suddenly does decide to choose something then thats fine but if not there's no harm in that either.
not all children have one and he really shouldnt sleep with anything in his crib anyway - SIDS, no extra blankets, pillows, stuffed animals - they often suffocate on these items. As children get older they seem to want to sleep with things more. Don't push it, it will come naturally.
My daughter is 13 months and she doesn't have one either. She has two things she sleeps with and a blanket but I don't think she would care if they were gone. I do try to keep things the same and at night we kiss them both good night. Maybe let him take the lead and eventually he'll pick one. I feel I have become her ';comfort object'; sometimes.
nope , if he don't need it , don't give it , don't fix what isn't broke . he is content and happy , look at it this way , be one less thing to break him of when he is older. of course keep things near he likes for strange places .





quit worrying about what the experts say , most experts don have kids or hardly ever home with their own , Doctor Spock leading child doc ..his own son committed suicide , trust your instincts
Aren't you his comfort object? Or does he have a passy?





I crocheted blankets for each of our kids, and it was MY comfort object more than it was theirs. I couldn't bear for them to sleep without it....they didn't care.


No real sleeping problems here!
Do you co-sleep?





My 8 month old doesn't have any one thing that she is particularly attached to either - other than ME.





If they can get by without a strong attachment to something that can become worn out or lost, then all the better. Right?
no...absolutely not...if he doesn't need one - that's because he is a happy, contented little baby without one - good for you!





p.s. is that a photo of him? - aww...he is a little beauty..you must be proud!!
No, he is self-comforting then. My second had her thumb and my last one didn't pick up anything until about 6 months ago and she is 5. The other 2 didn't have anything at all.
The fact your son dose not need something to comfort him means he is one happy little bunny! You should be proud Hun your doing something right run with it !....
Most babies use a comfort object because they need security...my baby would suck her thumb, but ever since starting day care, she's stopped sucking it!!


Don't make him choose one, just let him be - he's happy.
My son turns one next Sunday and he doesn't have a comfort object. I'm guessing that's a good thing. He's happy and content so I'm not going to worry about it.
No if he want's one he will find it himself. besides if he is sleeping without one why bother. it will cause chaos if he then loses it.
no it is importnant to have one, if they are happy wihtout then its not much of a problem, my son some nights likes his teddy but others not, howvere his dummy seems to be his comfort!
i wouldn't get him attached to something if i were you, then he won't be able to do anything without it!
I don't think what you read is necessarily true for all babies..bc my son of 7months also doesn't have one.
dont make him have 1 if hes happy..


my yougnest dont have 1 (9 months)


but my oldest...wont let his blanket go, cant even wash it reguarly...
if he sleeps fine without one, dont push him to have one.





he's obviously a very content baby
well maybe he just doesn't like sleeping with objects